Musings, Wheelchair life

12 Steps to Becoming a Confident Wheelchair User (pun intended)

I recently got a new wheelchair, well I got it almost a year ago, but things take time to get used to. You may have heard my moans.

It wasn’t until I got my new wheels, a chair totally different than any I’ve had before, that I really considered the impact my wheelchair has on my life and what not having the right chair can mean to me.

If you’re new to wheels, or have a new set of wheels, here are some things to keep in mind.

Driving doesn’t always come naturally

If you see my PA or friend driving my wheelchair you’ll realise it isn’t as easy as it looks. It took practise to get this good.

I’ve been driving since the age of 3. Can you imagine three year old little me racing around?!

It’s terrifying isn’t it. I have a four year old niece and I wouldn’t let her loose in an electric wheelchair.

Yet it was just the next step (ha) for me, the thing to do, like walking is for most I guess. I can’t really remember it much to be honest, I get told I bashed into things and scratched door frames, which isn’t much different to now really.

I remember being at play group and all the kids wanted a ride, that was the coolest way to make friends.

Every chair is different though, the pressure needed, manoeuvrability, turning circle, width, length.

My new wheelchair is my first mid-wheel drive. Which means it can almost turn on the spot. That’s great for small spaces and tight corners. But not so great when I forget that the back of this chair turns with me.

You may not be a new driver in a new chair, but you’re definitely a different one.

Enjoy a bit of practice driving, get out in those open spaces. Do a wheelie if you can. Speed down a hill. There’s got to be perks right.

One of my biggest irritants is people using the term ‘wheelchair bound’. I am not wheelchair bound. That implies being tied down unable to escape. Contrary to belief I do not sleep in my wheelchair, and sometimes get out of it. Some wheelchair users can also walk. Shocker right?!

It is freedom

Having a suitable wheelchair, enables me to have independence and freedom. It is not a restriction. It’s the difference between moving or not, leaving the house or not. Simple.

The correct wheelchair for your needs is also crucial. I can’t just use any chair.

Durability and manoeuvrability are everything

Finding a wheelchair to suit your lifestyle, or the lifestyle you want, is as important as getting a wheelchair at all. For me anyway.

There’s no point me having wheels if I still don’t have independence.

Be fussy when choosing a chair. Try a load out. You need to find your best pal, someone to live with day in day out. It may accompany you on the bus, in the car, on holiday, in the rain, in the snow, at the cinema, at a festival, doing the housework, going to work, in the pub, at the park.

So is fit

You’d think getting a new wheelchair would be exciting, cause for celebration. It’s not, not for many.

For myself, a millimetre change in position can make or break my independence. An armrest being slightly different can mean I can’t lift my cup of tea or get a fork to my mouth.

Blowing my nose is a struggle at the best of times, but things were impossible until I got my chair just right.

The little tweaks are what makes a wheelchair mine.

When you’re having a wheelchair fitting you don’t do daily life stuff. I didn’t try drinking tea, crocheting or typing. I should have.

Take your time in getting the little things right. Don’t be afraid to ask multiple times for adjustments. A footplate two millimetres higher or a headrest a fraction to the left.

Once you’ve got a chair you love you never want a new one.

Perseverance is key

Not only do you need to persevere with getting a chair that is right for you and your lifestyle.

Having that ‘keep calm and carry on’ attitude can be key to getting around.

It’s easy to get lost in the crowd or ignored when your half the height of the average Joe.

Don’t be afraid to push in. Make yourself known.

It wasn’t until I attended a few festivals that I got confident in crowds. If I didn’t stand my ground I’d literally get trampled on. Well tripped over.

My method now is to just go, go, go. I’m aware, very aware of the people around me. An ocean of legs and feet. But still I keep on ploughing through, as I know if I stopped to let just one group push past it would be the end of me. My focus gone, pathway gone, flow non existent.

The same goes for automatic doors and getting in a lift.

Don’t assume you can’t go in

So, the back entrance, a side door, a hidden alley shouldn’t be how we enter a building, but sometimes that’s the case. It’s not ok, but it’s better than not going in.

Always ask for access if it isn’t obvious. Some places have hidden ramps and doors. If they don’t, tell them they should.

Having a portable, fold up ramp is great for visiting friends and family. It’s not until you use wheels and start getting invited to other peoples houses do you realise how inaccessible they actually are.

Expect to become a leaning post but don’t accept it

You will undoubtedly get leaned on. Multiple times a day.

Many people don’t seem to understand that your wheelchair becomes a part of you, an extension of your body. You wouldn’t just lean on a randoms shoulder without permission, but others will lean on your handle bars, slouch on your armrest, put their feet up on your footrests. My footrest, where my feet live.

The best way to rid this irritant is short sharp movements. Not intended to hurt, just to wake the culprit into realising you are a moving, living, being.

Because it will become a part of you

You’ll become protective, attached (not just physically) and proud of your new wheelchair.. Dare anyone to diss your wheels. My wheels are my life, my independence. They allow and enable me to explore the world.

They are my friend and nobody should mess with them.

Buckle up. It’s an adventure out there

Having wheels opens up a whole world of possibilities, and ground surfaces. Wheels have all the feels.

Dropped curbs. Ha. I don’t know what the specifications of a dropped curb are (you know, those places in the pavement where there’s no step), but I do know there’s no such thing as smooth ground. Wheels highlight every little bump and hole.

You will learn to slalom like a pro. It will become second nature on your well used trails, you’ll find yourself automatically keeping to the left or right to avoid a drain cover or crater.

Cobbles, shingle, grass and wonky pavements all become a challenge to be defeated.

People are friendly. Often

So you might get a few stares and sideways glances. People haven’t yet realised wheelchairs are from the same planet as them.

You may also get raised voices and spoken to in slow motion, but on the whole people are good.

Assumptions are irritating and people can be ignorant. It happens.

Don’t take offence at the little old man or overbearing granny when they ask ‘are you ok?’, ‘do you need help?’, ‘where’s your Mum?’ Take the higher ground and assure them that you are in fact fine, just getting on with your day.

If you do need help, ask.

Know your style

One of the biggest yet unexpected challenges of always sitting down, is clothing. Things look very different when worn in a wheelchair, there’s no changing it. There are also very few wheelchair using models, and rarely a fully accessible changing room. But that’s another rant. Maybe coming soon.

You’ll learn what looks good on you, what is comfortable, practical, and what will fit.

I wear trousers and shoes that are a size too big for me. But who knows, or cares.

Own your style and don’t loose you.

Make things work for you

Being a wheelchair user pushes you to become creative at adapting situations to work for you.

Don’t be put off after a first try of something. Think of how it could work if the task was undertaken differently or the environment was arranged in another way.

I always appear to be sitting at a table awkwardly. Perched up the corner or parked at an angle. Whatever works for you is what you should do.

I like to have multiple things within reach at a time. I have a desk set up (a friend of mine calls it my ‘daily life’ table), where all the things I may want in a day are within reach. Sometimes it feels good not having to ask for help.

Think about your house set up, bedroom, kitchen. Make space and have things within reach.

Read my other writing in the ‘Wheelchair Life’ Series.

11 Perks Of Being A Wheelchair User

12 Frustrations Of Being A Wheelchair User

An image to pin  I am in my wheelchair, on the wonk, stuck in a pot hole at a festival  the ground is bumpy dried sandy grass  text at the bottom reads,   12 Steps to Becoming a Confident Wheelchair User (pun intended)

12 thoughts on “12 Steps to Becoming a Confident Wheelchair User (pun intended)”

  1. Oh, so you’re not wheelchair bound with velcro to your arse every time you sit in it? I imagined you were, and that as you sleep in it it would be possible for someone to turn you upside down and you’d still be glued in, sleeping soundly.

    From the perspective of someone not in a wheelchair, you’ve helped me and I imagine many others get a better idea of what it’s like and how you see your wheels. I’ve read another blogger’s posts, George (not sure if you know him on WP as well?), with his tips on getting the best wheelchair and wheels for your needs, and that was pretty enlightening too. As you say, it seems like things need to be just right and there’s a lot of factors to consider in tweaking it and making it suitable for unique individual use.

    I LOVE your protectiveness over your wheels. Mamma bear! Amazing post, Gemma ♥
    Caz xx

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    1. Well I have considered the sleeping in the chair thing, it would make mornings easier! Actually I have a confession…. I did do a night in the chair once when at uni, I had a rather late night so just read for a bit before getting the taxi to uni. Bit of a wash obviously 😂
      Oh I don’t thing I know of George (other than my cat) could you point me in his direction?

      Those are my wheels, so hands off! Always love a chat with you Caz, thanks for popping by.

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  2. People lean on you! Loling is not allowed! You need a sign. You could run a blog comp suggestions to keep leaners at bay. It took me weeks to walk in the shoes for my daughters wedding. Being flat footed means for inserts and Auther’s itus … means wearing soft and flats. to accomodate those inserts and capture unruly bones. I like boots for diguising as well as for comfort. The plain ones dressed with funky laces , or painted with polkadots of swirls of nail varnish. But daughters wedding needs prettier feminine footwear. I can still feel the pain four years on, I have never worn them since, but look the part I did. I looked at the new (second hand) car The Husband got for me. “Surprise” he smiled and jangled keys. I walked around it weighing it up, pretended to be reading the manual as I sat alone in the drivers seat. I had it two weeks and four days before I turned the key. You see I only learned to do this driving thing at 50. There seems to be a thing in me that needs time, to get to know and trust, like a human I took time to make friends … with it.
    With or without bodily strength and ability, we all have different things that need considering. So I can perfectly understand why it took time for your spin on a coin, uber cool chair to be loved and trusted. Enjoy you trusted steed and lets find a quote or sign for your chair. I will start with “Lolling not advised” or “LOLL here if you wish to annoy the occupant”

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    1. I’m glad you wouldn’t be a loller. I think people are considering each other’s personal space less and less.
      Those shoe sound horrendously glamorous! That’s one thing I’ve never had to experience.
      Yet again today I clipped a clothing rail in the shop. Almost took a load of tops without even realising, unfortunately they weren’t my style anyway!


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